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You Matter No Matter What
Do you feel like you have to earn your place here on earth?
Do you feel like no matter what you do it’s not good enough?
Do find judgment is stopping you from trying new things?
Do you have a strong inner critic telling you that what you’re doing isn’t enough?
Are you constantly seeking external validation to provide you reassurance?
Some of us had childhoods that taught us that we were a burden, that we were in competition with other people to earn love and appreciation, some of us never received the validation in childhood that would have set us up for a life not seeking it. Those stories that we created out of those moments aren’t the truth, you are not a burden, you are just as worthy as your siblings, and you matter no matter what anyone else says or does.
Are You Letting Your Trauma Prevent You From Seeking Help?
Do you say I’m fine a lot when you really need some help?
Do you often state I can do it on my own?
Do you say don’t worry I can do it, when someone offers you help?
Do you feel like a burden when asking for help?
What’s common about all those statements above is that they are your trauma wounds speaking. Ones that you had to develop when no one came to help you when you were younger.
What Else Is Possible? What Are You Limiting Because You Think It Is Impossible?
I have been participating in a program that keeps asking what else is possible as a standard, not as an exception.
This is a 90-day program although it is stretches over 5 months because there is an allowance for integration. In today’s session part of the focus was on what are you limiting because you either think that it is impossible or that you will get a no so therefore you don’t ask. I found this an intriguing question because I think that many of us don’t believe that we can have what we ask for.
Symptoms As Messengers And Pain As Protection
In the work I do some of my patients don’t seem to respond to normal treatment protocols. When this happens, I will deepen the conversation if they are open to it that their symptoms may have a message for them.
Your Prices Don’t Determine Your Worth
We often hear that we should charge what we are worth, I personally believe this isn’t possible because you are priceless.
To the right people what you charge won’t matter. To those that don’t see your value, whatever you charge will never be right.
What It Takes To Live An Authentic Life
There’s a version of you that wants to fit in but that means abandoning yourself, authenticity asks you not to.
There’s a version of you that was taught to fit in and that standing out would make life hard, authenticity asks you to stand out.
Who Are We In Relationships Through A Human Design Lens
Human design has interested me on many levels. Part of this interest has been the layers that you can dive into if you want. Not everyone wants to do the deep dive into it and that is fine if you want to stop at how it can help you make decisions. For me there was this desire to understand myself on a deeper level.
A Guide To Mindful Decision Making
We all know how tough it can be to make decisions sometimes. We can get caught up in the overwhelm of the moment and feel rushed to make a decision and often in those moments we don’t make the best ones. These decisions can often be made from a trauma response as well.
Living Through Your Challenges
Challenges are messy, let’s be honest they aren’t fun, but truth be told all of us go through them. I don’t know of anyone that hasn’t had one that has shaped who they are today. However, they create a ripple effect in how we show up in the world. If you’ve had childhood trauma of any description you will have stories that influence how you react and respond when placed in certain situations.
How I Am Honouring My Human Design In My Business
This year I have been deep diving into my human design to know myself on a deeper level so I can show up more authentically in the world. We are conditioned from an early age to be someone we aren't as a consequence of being told that we are too much of something or not enough of something else.
What Has Changed Over The Last 12 Months
The last 12 months have been a journey to say the least. This journey has been life affirming, I am feeling like I can finally start to enjoy life instead of enduring it. That is the power of removing the masks that I have worn in the effort to try and be someone I am not, most notably in the online space.
The Benefits of Being Authentic
You might ask why I bang on about being authentic. It’s pretty simple really, because as long as you are trying to prove yourself, or people please you will continue to live your life for everyone else. You think you are making life easier but actually you are making life harder.
Tower Moments - Those Moments That Are Here To Teach Us.
Tower moments will often shock us as we are not prepared for them generally speaking.
I have had a fair few in my lifetime – those times when I thought life was heading in one direction only to be re-directed in a completely different direction.
Leading the way
This is not a journey for the faint of heart.
It is one that will test and challenge you.
It will make you grow.
The wisdom found will humble you.
It will test your courage.
It will ask you what do you stand for.
It will challenge you in ways you were not expecting.
Why It’s Worth Working On Yourself
I have found that working on myself has bought so many benefits to my life. It has made life easier and more peaceful, not only for me, but for the people around me.
Was it always easy, no definitely not. But I learnt so much about myself through the process. I learnt that I have so many stories running around in the background (subconscious) that I wasn’t even aware of that created so much resistance in my life.
Grief: The Shadow In The Background
This topic has been showing up a lot over the last few weeks for me.
Most of us think of grief as losing a loved one or a loved pet. But the more that I thought about the concept of grief I have come to realise that it goes deeper than this.
I started to see that it can hit in so many other ways – for me it was about grieving a life I thought I would be living but am not.
Exercises To Calm Your Anxious Thoughts
Anxious thoughts have the capacity to relegate us, unable to think clearly, so at times it is important to have some strategies to help calm the mind . . .
The Beginners Guide to Meditation
Meditation brings up many different responses depending on past experiences with it. Some say its too hard, I can’t sit still for that long, or it’s boring and I get nothing out of it. Let me reassure you that you can make meditation anything that you want it to be.
How to Take An Effective Mental Health Day
When in need of a mental health day it is good to remember that you are not a bad person or failed in any way for needing to place a priority on your mental health. Any guilt you feel will undo any benefit from taking a day to look after yourself.
A Morning Routine Will Improve Your Mood
A morning routine that is aligned to your needs has the potential to set you up to have an amazing day.
An important part of a morning routine is to have the time to dedicate to yourself and any spiritual or self-care strategies that you wish to implement. If you feel rushed this will be counter intuitive to your desired outcome.