Who Are We In Relationships Through A Human Design Lens

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Human design has interested me on many levels. Part of this interest has been the layers that you can dive into if you want. Not everyone wants to do the deep dive into it and that is fine if you want to stop at how it can help you make decisions. For me there was this desire to understand myself on a deeper level. I can’t quite explain why I have found it such an interesting tool to use to explain so many aspects of my personality compared to astrology or other personality tests, but there is something about it that has me intrigued and continues to intrigue me. As a 1/3 manifesting generator it hasn’t bored me yet. I find it interesting that some people have labeled it cult like, and in ways I can see how that occurs, but to me it’s a tool to aid self-reflection and to help me understand others.

A little bit about me and my human design to provide some context to this discussion:

• I am a 1/3 manifesting generator

• I am a sacral authority with a responding strategy

• I have the gate 49 as my conscious sun in an undefined solar plexus centre

• I am a single definition

• I have the 23/42 channel twice in my unconscious side which is commonly known as the freak to genius channel, so some people will resonate strongly with what I have to say, and others won’t because what I have to say doesn’t make sense to them.

• Other channels that I have are the 1/8, 25/51, 5/15

• I have defined ajna, throat, identity/g, will/heart and sacral centres

• I have undefined, head, solar plexus, root and spleen centres

• I have no completely open centres I have gates defined in every centre

Some of the lessons that I have learnt from my exploration of my human design is that I do actually pull a lot of information from others through my undefined centres - I do feel other people’s emotions through my undefined solar plexus centre. I do feel the pressure from the collective to complete all the things through my undefined root and get a lot of pressure from my undefined head centre to take action on all the ideas. I am intuitive about other people through my undefined spleen, I also pick up a lot of fears of others through this centre in addition to my own.

The interesting thing is that when I come into contact with people who have defined head centres I am clearer about my own ideas and they feel more stable in concept that when I am by myself. I am calmer when I am around someone with a defined spleen and or solar plexus centre. I do not feel rushed when I am with someone who has a defined root centre.

In acknowledgement when people are in my energy/aura they have stronger voices because of my defined throat centre, more certainty in who they are and what they can do because of my defined sacral, identity and will centres. They can also have more clarity around their thoughts because of my defined Ajna.

There can be shadow sides which show up such as people making promises they can’t keep because they are in my will centre aura and then when they leave my aura they forget about the promise, or it no longer feels right to them. Part of this lesson is to remember that we are influenced even if we don’t recognise it when we are around others. Human design gives us language to understand this concept through our undefined and defined gates, channels and centres, because when we come together, we can complete hanging gates to make channels, and define centres for each other and this shifts how we show up.

In business this means that we can be influenced when it comes to marketing and how we respond. If we live in our shadow aspects of our human design I believe we can be influenced to buy products and services we don’t need. I found this recently with my messaging in the online space. I have had doubt around this even though I have a defined throat centre which means that I should have a level of confidence when it comes to what I want to say. I feel this uncertainty around my messaging which is all about authenticity and finding what works for you is influenced by my undefined spleen and solar plexus which both don’t have defined channels linked to the throat like they could. They both have hanging gates looking for someone to help me speak with certainty around fears and emotions. In truth I am influenced by people who can help me complete these handing gates and create channels. When it comes to this I will more likely be drawn to people who could complete these channels. I do find it interesting that when I see a person’s human design chart that I have bought off and realise they have completed channels that make so much sense as to why I bought off them. For example, I have a hanging 44 gate from the spleen and recently committed to a long-term package and found out they had the 26 which completely explained why I felt the need to buy their offering. This however can also explain why something that you thought was going to be great ends up being a not-so-great decision. This might explain why that coach didn’t live up to expectations, that service provider didn’t quite meet your expectations when other people raved about them.

I acknowledge that we can’t see everyone’s human design chart, but it is a reminder that we are influenced by those around us and to be more mindful that we are making decision based on our own energy and not those around us or who we might be buying off online from. The next time you feel like you become someone else in the presence of certain people don’t dismiss this as I believe that your aura and their aura are interacting. It’s also a reminder there are many layers to our interactions with others, this is why some can make us feel safe and others may come across as scattered. I’ve only touched on a small part of how our human design can influenced others and be influenced by others at the same time.

What I wish to leave you with is that we are influenced by those around us, sometimes in ways that empower us, other times in ways that can make us feel unsure. I believe it is important to be mindful of what is yours and what is someone else’s when showing up and making decisions. As our human design charts can also show where we might be being triggered by someone else as well. Check in and make sure you're showing up in alignment to your truth and not being influenced by others and on the flipside be mindful of how you might be influencing a situation as well.